I saw this and couldn’t resist
sharing with all of you in the Sisterhood of bookworms and bloggers,
freestylers and freelancers, readers, writers, storytellers and
of course, for all you knitting novices and know-how’s.
“You should date a girl who reads.
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books
instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she has too many
books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a
library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she
will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over
the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she has found
the book she wants. You see that weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book
in a secondhand bookshop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the
pages, especially when they are yellow and worn.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down
the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on
top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s
making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not
like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got
through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she
understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent.
Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her
birthday, for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in
poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that
you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference
between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a
little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your
need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance,
dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always
leads up to the climax. Because girls who read understand that all things must
come to end, but that you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again
and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read
understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight
series.
If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her
up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and
hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back
to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a
while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert.
Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t
burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your
lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will
introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day.
You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats
under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl
who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her
monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off
alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
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....writes, reads & knits! |
Or better yet, date a girl who writes.”
― Rosemarie
Urquico